tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post3627119173927175789..comments2023-09-09T08:58:16.226-05:00Comments on Deepest Darkest Thoughts: If the Adjective FitsTrueselfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04376379968984585345noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-9081820847363372112008-01-24T17:59:00.000-06:002008-01-24T17:59:00.000-06:00FB - Don't worry about sounding like it's all abou...FB - Don't worry about sounding like it's all about you. It gives me hope that things will get better. I remember reading your blog when you were at the stage I am now and it is comforting to know that now you can see things getting better.Trueselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376379968984585345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-47258978678216955102008-01-24T09:04:00.000-06:002008-01-24T09:04:00.000-06:00TS, this is quite horrible for me to read, especia...TS, this is quite horrible for me to read, especially the unanswered questions part. But in recognising that it has taken me vividly back into the past I can appreciate how much I've moved on. This may sound all about me, but the reason I'm saying it to you is to assure you that one day you will find that, almost without realising it and with the tiniest steps, you too have moved on. It will freebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17745492522820347949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-32455849662904746162008-01-23T23:36:00.000-06:002008-01-23T23:36:00.000-06:00Mia - Thank you for your comments. I appreciate t...Mia - Thank you for your comments. I appreciate that you understand that neither BJ nor I are villains in this. You are right that our relationship filled a need for a certain time in our lives. I won't say that I don't wish it wasn't over, but I wouldn't want him to settle for me if someone else can bring him long term happiness and be a better match for him. I was going to send you an Trueselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376379968984585345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-78566938836850194272008-01-23T22:32:00.000-06:002008-01-23T22:32:00.000-06:00Trueself, I knew BJ first, and I watched with joy ...Trueself, I knew BJ first, and I watched with joy as he found you and the two of you created a bit of happiness for each other during a chaotic time in both of your lives. Even though your relationship is over I think it was definitely for the best for both of you. You are both extraordinary people, and I wish the best for both of you. I hope you can stop hurting soon and find someone who willmiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16558802688877647933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-82730902604717131632008-01-23T17:47:00.000-06:002008-01-23T17:47:00.000-06:00Bunny - I think there's plenty of hurt to the both...Bunny - I think there's plenty of hurt to the both of us, and I really think that he and I are both trying to be as reasonable as our emotions will allow.<BR/><BR/>Jeni Angel - Thanks for sharing your story. I'm pretty sure I would have turned stalker too if he'd kept ignoring my requests.<BR/><BR/>SM - Thanks, your respect means a lot to me even if I only know you through the internet.<BR/><BR/Trueselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376379968984585345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-44996119148991909362008-01-23T16:44:00.000-06:002008-01-23T16:44:00.000-06:00Of course BJ owes you some answers, I'm glad he wi...Of course BJ owes you some answers, I'm glad he will be providing 'em.<BR/>Of course those answers are NOOB (None of Our Business), but we're here to support you & offer solace in whatever shabby, long-distance ways we can...Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03152215204773184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-81350740615638249482008-01-23T14:28:00.000-06:002008-01-23T14:28:00.000-06:00I think you are showing a showing strong character...I think you are showing a showing strong character in your words. BJ is a part of this, but in truth, this is about you and your life. I think your decision to accept the answers and not throw things into the blog are great. I think it'll be great for you and speaking for me only, I don't have to know that information.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-23333423551036637682008-01-23T13:52:00.000-06:002008-01-23T13:52:00.000-06:00Thank God. I went through a break-up with someone ...Thank God. <BR/><BR/>I went through a break-up with someone I had been with for 2 years. In the span of 20 hours, he went from "I can't wait to see you, I love you so much" (I was out of town) to "I can't be with you anymore"<BR/><BR/>I begged for months for him to tell me why. He refused. I pretty much was a psycho who stalked him-still refused. I finally moved 3,000 miles. It wasn't 100% Jeni Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06858342330552310646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-57794348921561348612008-01-23T12:45:00.000-06:002008-01-23T12:45:00.000-06:00I'm glad he has agreed to answer your questions an...I'm glad he has agreed to answer your questions and seems to be taking them seriously.<BR/><BR/>I'm also glad that you have resolved not to try "to regain any foothold in his life." I've done that - tried to win back a lost love - and it doesn't benefit anyone. It just prolongs the pain. Once it is done, it is done. You are right that once the grieving process is complete you must move on.<BR/><Bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12955817346800123054noreply@blogger.com