tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post3693397641259021960..comments2023-09-09T08:58:16.226-05:00Comments on Deepest Darkest Thoughts: AftershocksTrueselfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04376379968984585345noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-10012309431215939252008-02-06T10:02:00.000-06:002008-02-06T10:02:00.000-06:00Yes (late to the party but agreeing w/Bunny & Nanc...Yes (late to the party but agreeing w/Bunny & Nancy) -- here's another assertion that he/she who files first generally gets it their way...Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03152215204773184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-34522148567651341702008-02-04T21:46:00.000-06:002008-02-04T21:46:00.000-06:00Bunny - I have an appointment with my attorney tom...Bunny - I have an appointment with my attorney tomorrow afternoon to get the ball rolling on the divorce. Whatever I have to do to make it happen I am determined to do.<BR/><BR/>Nancy - I've been squirreling away funds of which he isn't aware so he can't possibly get away with it all, but yes I want to file fast so he has little chance to grab anything.Trueselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376379968984585345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-78116909892738335542008-02-04T12:44:00.000-06:002008-02-04T12:44:00.000-06:00I'm echoing Bunny . . . file first. The person wh...I'm echoing Bunny . . . file first. The person who files first gets everything their way, at least for a while until the other answers the filing, etc. I don't know how you have your joint money set up, but make sure he can't just empty an account when you're not looking.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06584582384619096479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-10981244707166607902008-02-04T10:55:00.000-06:002008-02-04T10:55:00.000-06:00If W doesn't find someplace to live very soon, you...If W doesn't find someplace to live very soon, you need to get moving on filing for divorce and moving for exclusive use of the marital home - i.e., ask the court to order him to move his butt out. It's harsh, but it has to be done. By filing for divorce you can get squared away on temporary custody and, if necessary, temporary spousal support. Even if W gets social security or disability or Bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12955817346800123054noreply@blogger.com