tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post8721703005994276925..comments2023-09-09T08:58:16.226-05:00Comments on Deepest Darkest Thoughts: I hate feeling this way.Trueselfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04376379968984585345noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-82723835600334306062007-04-25T16:37:00.000-05:002007-04-25T16:37:00.000-05:00I really, deeply understand what you've written. ...I really, deeply understand what you've written. *sigh*Saranonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16961769518993471551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-50909269938218388872007-04-24T06:18:00.000-05:002007-04-24T06:18:00.000-05:00Andy - There really are too many of us out here, h...<B>Andy</B> - There really are too many of us out here, huh?<BR/><BR/><B>Drama</B> - Yes, I do see the wisdom in what Fiona and you are saying.<BR/><BR/><B>Emily</B> - Of course you are right. A woman with a busy fulfilling life would be much more attractive to a man than someone who sits and waits for him.Trueselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376379968984585345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-345370892188708512007-04-23T23:08:00.000-05:002007-04-23T23:08:00.000-05:00Quite honestly, Trueself, I have found one of the ...Quite honestly, Trueself, I have found one of the best ways to make yourself #1 in a man's life is to be a little unavailable - not never around, not never available, but maintaining an active and fulfilling life of your own so that *he* has to wonder when you'll be able to pay attention to *him*.<BR/><BR/>Trust me, it's better that way.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16960808094968837047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-71483994867281237802007-04-23T22:16:00.000-05:002007-04-23T22:16:00.000-05:00I do agree with what Fiona had to say. Before I b...I do agree with what Fiona had to say. Before I began working again I was simply hanging out at home doing a whole lot of waiting. I worried when I started the job that I'd be too unavailable but now I see that he does make an effort to find me when he needs me. I don't freak out when I miss a call and it has gotten a bit easier. But then again I have days that are just like you described. Dramahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13560688829952787342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-23932998119995694092007-04-23T22:08:00.000-05:002007-04-23T22:08:00.000-05:00Wow I really think you have read all my thoughts t...Wow I really think you have read all my thoughts today. How is that possible?? As I sit and wait on an email. <BR/><BR/>Gawd does this mean I'm pathetic and needy? Oh feeling sick to may stomach. UGH!!Andyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02966241672355575148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-58786801635159934032007-04-23T22:03:00.000-05:002007-04-23T22:03:00.000-05:00Drama - Well no, but our situations are so similar...<B>Drama</B> - Well no, but our situations are so similar I suppose it's natural we would have similar feelings. Not that I would wish this situation on anyone, but it is comforting to know I'm not the only one.<BR/><BR/><B>Serenity</B> - Yes, BJ is still married. No, not reasonable at all to expect that gesture from him. How about from W, the one who claims he wants to hold onto me? Any Trueselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376379968984585345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-63914443929488304682007-04-23T21:46:00.000-05:002007-04-23T21:46:00.000-05:00ps Truey, it doesnt make you pathetic and needy, i...ps Truey, it doesnt make you pathetic and needy, it means you have value and are giving to others, that is why they want your attentions.<BR/><BR/>i do agree you should not have to just sit around waiting for them to call. but the clandestine thing puts the strain on all the interactions, doesnt it?<BR/><BR/>i respect you wanting freedom from being needy/dependent, but dont be to hard on yourselfoldbearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03192748970108799675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-76663322877764433222007-04-23T21:36:00.000-05:002007-04-23T21:36:00.000-05:00Hi truey, I am not sure what to say about all of t...Hi truey, I am not sure what to say about all of this, but please dont lump the boy in with yuor grouchy old man and your "at least a little selfish" lover.<BR/><BR/>While N does need to gorw up and not be mommas boy when the time is right for that, he is just a kid, who prabably is sscared and needs the extra love and security form yuo.<BR/><BR/>My mom died when I was a teen, and I saw how hard oldbearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03192748970108799675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-27683664297459491402007-04-23T19:06:00.000-05:002007-04-23T19:06:00.000-05:00TS, they are all choices you're making, and I'm no...TS, they are all choices you're making, and I'm not saying I don't make some of the same ones.<BR/><BR/>History is a huge challenge, especially someone else's history. There are no quick answers, no off-the-shelf-solutions to any of this.<BR/><BR/>I recommend some structure. Some expecation that is agreed on by both sides. Certain time of day agreeable to both. Then live your life around thatFionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00727596416170770024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-27644084028434452162007-04-23T16:26:00.000-05:002007-04-23T16:26:00.000-05:00I'm with UD, and reluctantly also have to nod to w...I'm with UD, and reluctantly also have to nod to what serenity says to a certain extent.<BR/>Many years ago I vowed I'd never again wait by a phone for a man - and what do I do all the time...? Pathetic, aren't we?!!! :-Sfreebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17745492522820347949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-36780771677399034382007-04-23T13:28:00.001-05:002007-04-23T13:28:00.001-05:00BJ's married, yes? You'll never get the grand gest...BJ's married, yes? You'll never get the grand gesture from a married man because they are safe and sound in their little world and thy just don't need us enough to really rock the boat. I'm not advising you to do anything in particular, except adjust your expectations. Doesn't matter how sweet he might be in person, if he's still married, that will always be his first priority. Either you accept Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01529721099212540848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25964040.post-62241286020470453652007-04-23T13:28:00.000-05:002007-04-23T13:28:00.000-05:00Are you hanging out in my head and my heart? You ...Are you hanging out in my head and my heart? You echoed every single solitary thought and emotion that is inside of me. I know exactly of what you speak...no answers, no magic words of advice. Just know you're not alone. *hugs*....big big *hugs*<BR/><BR/>DramaDramahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13560688829952787342noreply@blogger.com