Sunday, January 04, 2009

It's Me Not Them

As evidence mounts it becomes clearer and clearer to me that my expectations of people are way too high. People continually disappoint me. That combined with that other truth that the only person you can change is yourself makes me realize that the problem has to be me, not the other people. The other people are doing what they do the way they are going to do it. I'm going around being angry, disappointed, and generally not too pleasant. Alrighty then. If I want to be a happier person then I have to change my reactions to people because I damned sure can't change the other people.

Sigh. . .

Personal growth is not easy.

6 comments:

John said...

Recognizing that is the first step. So congrats. but if you figure out a way to do it consistently, please let me know. I'm still trying :-(

Serenity said...

"makes me realize that the problem has to be me, not the other people." No, you're not the problem, you're the solution. That's part of the change you need to internalize.

Val said...

Yep yep yep... I realize that more & more as I ponder the same ol' impasses reached in Second Marriage as for First. What's changed? Everything, except ME.

Stinkypaw said...

When we change the way we look at things/people/situations, it changes everything. It's not easy, far from it, but it does make a big difference on how we see everything.

Fusion said...

Personal growth is not easy.

It does take work, that's for sure... good luck on it, you'll get there!

Trueself said...

John - Eh, we're all works in progress, aren't we?

Serenity - You are so right. Thank you for making me see it from a different angle.

Val - Exactly how I'm seeing things in my situation.

SP - Nope, not easy at all.

Fuse - I will try to share your optimism about that.