Monday, August 25, 2008

Guilty Pleasures

Just something I've noticed lately. I wonder if to some my blog is a guilty pleasure. Why do I say that? Well, there are some who are regular visitors (yeah, I'm totally stalking you so get over it) who have blogrolls on their blogs yet my blog isn't listed on their blogrolls. That gets me to wondering then how do people determine who to put on their blogrolls and who not to put there?

I know that I have some blogs that I read that do not appear on my blogroll. The reason most do not appear on my blogroll is because they are very local and very vocal about where they are located. If I had a whole mess of blogs included on my blogroll all from the same locale then it would pretty much give away my location, and I've already pretty much placed myself through things I've said on my blog in a fairly small geographic region. No need to out myself to the world by giving up the actual town/city/village/municipality/whathaveyou by listing all my neighbors in my blogroll. The reason a couple of others don't appear is because they are people I know IRL that I wouldn't want to make the connection between IRL me and Trueself me. Occasionally when I'm "trying out" a new blog I read it for a while before adding it to my blogroll.

I wonder why some of y'all don't have me on your blogroll? Am I the woman who lives down the street from you, and you don't want me to know that you know? Are you worried that letting others know you read a blog like mine would place you in a bad light somehow? Are you just too damned lazy to update your blogroll? What is it? Inquiring minds want to know. . .

10 comments:

Bunny said...

First thing I did after reading this was look back to my own blog to make sure you are on my blogroll. You are, so I guess I don't have any 'splainin to do.

Your down in the "T" section for your blog moniker, not the "D" section for your blog title. There's no rhyme or reason to my listings. They just are.

I also have some I read that aren't on my blogroll. I also have ones on my blogroll that I don't actually read terribly often. I suppose I should update sometime. (I did recently delete some people who aren't blogging anymore or changed blogs - just clean-up)

Bunny said...

That should be "You're" not "Your" in the second paragraph of my comment above. Doh!

Fusion said...

I always add those who post on mine. If they don't I drop them off, although I may still read them through my rss feed. Some bloggers never update their blogrolls though...

Trueself said...

Bunny - I knew I was on your blogroll. It made me chuckle a bit that you had to go check. Your list is so long I'm not surprised you'd lose track of who is there.

Fuse - Guess I better comment more often on your blog. Wouldn't want to get dropped off the list. ;-)

Val said...

I cop a plea to the "too damn lazy to even set up a blogroll"; I'm sure I'm not alone!!!
I'm lucky to throw out a post now & then, let alone fancy-ing the page up;-)...

Xavier said...

For personal reasons my blogroll has been all but eliminated. That may change someday.

Originally I had a simple rule- if I visited a blog almost daily I rolled it and those that I visited less often I did not. Totally arbitrary I know.

C-Marie said...

You're on mine! I've been a reader longer than I've had you on my blogroll and that's just because I get LAZY!

Trueself said...

Val - Well, I can't say I really noticed where people don't have blogrolls at all. It just seems odd when they have one, visit here frequently, but don't have me on their blogroll.

Xavier - Sir (somehow I feel the need to call you "sir" with such a formal name LOL), I understand your situation and can't say as I blame you one bit.

C-Marie - I get lazy too. I generally don't add a blog to my blogroll until I get tired of not being able to easily get to it from mine. Then I finally kick myself in the ass and make myself do it.

Confidential to the one who emailed me - I will respond to you via email. I just have to think through my response first. Give me a few days on that one.

Summer said...

I don't have a blog roll, just have you in my favorites.

Trueself said...

Summer - Awww, I'm in your favorites? Cool.