Monday, December 04, 2006

It's Been One Long Week

The sex drought is about to be over. . . in a way.

After surgery last week, there was no sex allowed for one week. Actually, what they told me was that nothing should be put in my vagina so no sex, no tampons, no birth control sponges, or anything else. The reason for this was risk of infection. So for a week, I have left my brand new vibrator alone, my dildo has stayed in its place in the drawer, and BJ has seemingly made it his mission in life to make me as horny as possible at every chance. Add to this that I was likely ovulating last week.

It's all just basic math:
Sexual activity forbidden
+ Teasing by loved one
+ Highest libido phase of my cycle
= One very unsatisfied cranky me!

Tonight there will be satisfaction. It will have to come just from me alone, but that’s okay. Sometimes a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do.

If all goes well tonight, and if the final remnants of discharge resulting from the surgery will finally stop, then I may just have to call S and see if we can get together sometime this week. Of course, if I could just talk BJ into driving 400 miles to see me he could take care of me quite well. Yeah, if it weren’t for those 400 little reasons. . .


Anonymous said...

I know you did a poll about this a while back, but what do you think is the average amount of sex for a healthy normal relationship?

In my marriage we went an entire year without it at all, so now I get all nervous when it is less than 2 or 3 times a week. Has the past just messed me up? Is this normal? I am sure it is different for everyone, but still...

trueself said...

I think I would get nervous too at less than 2-3 times a week, but then again I've lived through the year without too so maybe we're both warped. The results to my poll showed that virtually everyone wanted sex at least weekly and most wanted more than that. I think it's normal to want what you want. Things get messed up when the two people in the relationship want different frequencies of different things.

I don't think I've answered your question at all here. Maybe somebody else will pop in with some wisdom for the both of us.

trueself said...

Okay, I went back and grabbed the results of that poll. Here they are:

What is the perfect frequency of sex for you? [23 votes total]

More than once/day (4) 17%
Once/day (3) 13%
4-6 times/week (9) 39%
2-3 times/week (6) 26%
Once/week (1) 4%
2-3 times/month (0) 0%
Once/month (0) 0%
A few times per year (0) 0%
Once/year (0) 0%
Less than once/year (0) 0%
Never (0) 0%

Based on those results (and remember that's just based on a small number of people who enjoy reading my blog so take it with a grain of salt) it seems that we're in the ballpark if we start to worry when it slides down to less than 2-3/week.