So What's Up with BJ and Me?

BJ and I are in love. Not only that, I like BJ a great deal.

I really think for a relationship to work you have to have both elements. It is important to like the other person as a person, to like their character, to appreciate how they handle life, to have respect for them. I know that I can love someone without liking them much. J would be a good example of that. I do still love J and probably always will, but I don’t like a whole lot about him. For that reason, he and I are not a good match. I will also always love W but just don’t like the angry old man that he has become.

On the other hand, with BJ there is a whole lot to like. BJ is kind, gentle, caring, concerned about my happiness, courteous. On the other hand, BJ is passionate, adventurous and a real “bad boy” in the bedroom. To me, that is the perfect combination of traits. For anyone who thinks little things don’t matter, I’ll tell you that some of the things that have impressed me most are little things.
*Like opening the car door for me.
*Like holding my hand when we walk together.
*Like looking me in the eye when I talk.
*Like just letting me cry when I need to cry.
*Like being concerned enough about different preferences to want to work on an acceptable compromise rather than having an all or nothing attitude.
Okay, that last one isn’t such a little thing. That’s a huge thing, but still most of those are little things, little ways of showing a caring spirit. Yes, it’s that caring spirit that impresses me so much about BJ.

Now, don’t think for a moment that I’ve gone all Pollyanna here. Believe me, I understand that BJ and I have more than a few obstacles in our way to being together such as living hundreds of miles apart, and being married to other people, as well as a few other odds and ends. And I understand that we met in a rather unconventional way by reading and commenting on one another’s blogs. And I understand that we spent our first two “dates” in a rather unconventional way since most people don’t spend the weekend in a hotel room together on their first OR second dates. And most of all I understand that I have spent my entire life being unconventional while trying to show the world how conventional I am. And I understand how soul-numbing it has been to try to squelch that unconventional side of me. I am NOT the good girl, never have been, never will be. The term “devil’s mistress” comes to mind. (Much thanks to BJ for bestowing me with that title, btw.)

I know there are some who would love the juicy details about what happens when BJ and I get together. Not gonna happen here folks, at least not right now. Maybe later, when we’ve been together a while and get the webcam set up in the bedroom and can charge you to watch us over the ‘net. Maybe then we will regale you with our adventures. For now, suffice it to say that we enjoy one another’s company. . . immensely.