Wednesday, August 16, 2006

Lunch with H

H and I had lunch together today. We started out nervous like we were last week when we met, but by the time lunch was over I think we both were more comfortable and more able to talk to each other.

I told him about my "partner" plan to protect me from psycho serial killers. The look on his face was interesting. I think he never had given any thought that he could be thought of as scary in any way. I assured him that he has done and said nothing to make me feel that he is indeed a psycho serial killer, but that you always hear the neighbor on the news say "He was such a nice, quiet sort. Not at all the kind you would expect to do this" when they arrest some psycho serial killer.

While people may worry about me being impulsive, one thing nobody will have to worry about with H is an impulsive decision. He is still trying to make up his mind about whether or not he can do this. Of course, I've already made my decision, but I told him that his decision is his alone. I told him that I'm not going to try to influence him but that he knows which way I hope he decides. I also told him that I will leave him alone to make that decision and just wait to hear back from him. Of course, I hope to hear from him sooner rather than later, but I don't want to push him into something uncomfortable for him.

I still don't have his last name or phone # (time enough for that if he decides to go forward), but I did snag his license plate # as he drove away.

1 comment:

BJ said...

If you're meeting a total stranger you've got to expect them to be apprehensive about personal safety. I was very open with my new friend when she asked me about my personal info, giving her my full name, car and
license #. Looking back on it we both know I held back during the encounter because she was so nervous about safety and taking that final step and contacting me about getting together. But that concern for her needs impressed her.

If this guy is worth being with he'll understand. I mean I wouldn't want to be with a person who didn't care about my needs. Otherwise he can go find a hooker. Your partner arrangement with your g/f is not unusual at all. I've seen women who routinely do that.